Men have to go learn it by doing it. (remember that bit about girls being in 4 to 6 relationships before settling and guy in 15+ before they do ?) Then, if you are with that self confidence, why jump right in and get married. The girls date around and have their fun fun fun. By the time you are there there will be plenty of younger women who will understand the experience you have at that point and will be less likely to try and run the show and make you jump through all their hoops. You should listen to it. Although costly, he was smart and wise by that time and had the confidence and self esteem which he could have generated on his own without the marriage.
I don't believe marriage is something men today are really raised for. You notice how girls play with dolls when little ? They are learning a reality in their lives. Boys play with toy soldiers. Boys are playing at sports when girls are having tea parties or sleep overs where they talk about being older and with boy friends. So the girls approach marriage ready willing for the most part. I think once you meet the right person, the idea of being with someone forever stops being scary and starts being wonderful. That still scares the crap out of me. It's not any less scary since meeting the right guy. And I anticipate it scaring the crap out of me for a good long time still to come.
Pretty sure the replies will be all over the place on this one.
but for me, being married or having kids was never scary or a big deal to me.
you take the punches or issues as the come.
really it all a part of life.
the idea of staying or being with just one person all my life has never settled or felt right for me.
but again. you take the lumps as they come.
if I suppose to be with just one person for the rest of my life .
so be it.
again really no big deal.
eta: having kids has been by far the easiest( and yet most expensive) part of my life thus far.
idk, maybe I just got lucky or something. Trouwjurk Lange Mouw People can do anything and then get your kids and your money. I have a 12 YO son and I pay $600. a month in C/S. I've gotten behind 5 grand in the past 1 1/2 years because of the economy.(I own a small business and its been struggling) I was threatened by C/S in every way imaginable. I sold stuff, worked harder to get the debt down to 3 grand making double payments. They don't care. I just recieved a letter stating that if they don't recieve the balance in 20 days, I lose my drivers license. Mind you, I had went 11 years without ever being late for a payment. They're ruthless and X wives can be as well. BTW, X wife is doing fine financially. Shes a supervisor and owns several houses etc. People can do anything and then get your kids and your money. I have a 12 YO son and I pay $600. a month in C/S. I've gotten behind 5 grand in the past 1 1/2 years because of the economy.(I own a small business and its been struggling) I was threatened by C/S in every way imaginable. I sold stuff, worked harder to get the debt down to 3 grand making double payments. They don't care. I just recieved a letter stating that if they don't recieve the balance in 20 days, I lose my drivers license. Mind you, I had went 11 years without ever being late for a payment. They're ruthless and X wives can be as well. BTW, X wife is doing fine financially. Shes a supervisor and owns several houses etc. Shes been with the same company for almost 30 years.
But thats why you should be very scared.
Can't you get it modified? That is what my husband did when his partnership ended and he lost 1/2 his income. Since it wasn't voluntary underemployment, Eenvoudige Trouwjurken the c/s was permanently modified. It is still outrageous, but doable. In fact, she just texted him asking if he can change the dates each month because she started auto pay for her new mercedes loan. Yes, that's what it goes for, but that's life. 2 more years and it reduces by half. It's fun paying all summer too when they are here. THat one can't be changed, because then she won't agree to the extra time here. As soon as it does, then it all goes into retirement since we are use to living without it anyway, won't miss it.
Can't you get it modified? That is what my husband did when his partnership ended and he lost 1/2 his income. Since it wasn't voluntary underemployment, the c/s was permanently modified. It is still outrageous, but doable. In fact, she just texted him asking if he can change the dates each month because she started auto pay for her new mercedes loan. Yes, that's what it goes for, but that's life. 2 more years and it reduces by half. It's fun paying all summer too when they are here. THat one can't be changed, because then she won't agree to the extra time here. As soon as it does, then it all goes into retirement since we are use to living without it anyway, won't miss it.
Can't you get it modified? That is what my husband did when his partnership ended and he lost 1/2 his income. Since it wasn't voluntary underemployment, the c/s was permanently modified. It is still outrageous, but doable. Feest Jurken In fact, she just texted him asking if he can change the dates each month because she started auto pay for her new mercedes loan. Yes, that's what it goes for, but that's life. 2 more years and it reduces by half. It's fun paying all summer too when they are here. THat one can't be changed, because then she won't agree to the extra time here. As soon as it does, then it all goes into retirement since we are use to living without it anyway, won't miss it.